Dare's Blog - Oludare Akinbo

The Cost of Staying Soft-Hearted

Someone hurts you, not by accident, or close enough to deliberate that the difference hardly matters, and a voice inside you suggests a trade. Harden a little, it says, and you will never be caught off guard like this again. Keep people at arm’s length and protect the tender places. In that moment it sounds like wisdom, even like growing up.

The Freedom of Letting God Defend You

Someone says something untrue about you, or treats you unfairly, and hours or even days later you are still rehearsing your defence in the shower, in traffic and in the quiet before sleep. The conversation is long over, but you are still fighting it, polishing the perfect reply that nobody will ever hear.

The Ministry of Showing Up: Where Presence Matters Most

My mother used to tell me about a huge tree in the square of the village where she grew up. It was so old that her own grandparents remembered playing in its shade as children. That tree never preached a sermon or gave anyone advice. It simply stood there through every wedding celebrated beneath it, every dispute settled in its shade and every funeral gathering that needed somewhere cool to sit and grieve.

Thou Shalt Prosper — But Prosper How?

“Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers” (3 John 2, NKJV). It is one of the most quoted verses in the New Testament, and one of the most misread.

Pride Goes Before the Fall — But What Comes Before Pride?

“Is not this great Babylon, that I have built for a royal dwelling by my mighty power and for the honor of my majesty?” (Daniel 4:30, NKJV). Nebuchadnezzar spoke those words while walking on the roof of his palace, and Scripture records them as the moment his fall began.

Discernment: Knowing the Difference Between Good and Best

Early in my years as a pharmaceutical sales manager, I was offered two postings in the same season. One was a comfortable, well-established territory close to family. The other was a demanding, unglamorous region that badly needed rebuilding. Both were good opportunities, and nobody would have faulted me for choosing the comfortable one.

The Mentor Nobody Notices

When Saul of Tarsus arrived in Jerusalem after his conversion, the church would have nothing to do with him. They had good reason. This was the man who had been dragging believers from their homes to prison and death.

Why Can’t Christians Get Along?

If there is one question that has echoed throughout the history of Christianity, it is this: Why can’t Christians get along? The Church was never meant to resemble the divided world around it. It was called to be a living demonstration of God’s love—a community where people from different backgrounds, cultures, and personalities are united through faith in Jesus Christ.

Honor Doesn’t Wait For Agreement

The fifth commandment is short and has no conditions attached: “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the LORD your God is giving you” (Exodus 20:12, NKJV).

What Really Happens the Moment We Die?

You will recognise this scene from almost any wake-keeping across Nigeria. Someone leans over, pats a grieving person on the shoulder and says gently, “Don’t cry, they’re watching over you now. They’re smiling down from above.” It is said with real love, and nobody means harm by it. But as believers who care about truth, we should ask honestly whether that is what Scripture teaches happens the moment someone in Christ dies.